Most loving relationships go through phases of love, doubt, and denial, and chances to nourish your relationship. During the phase of relationship ebb, the disagreements that may arise are visible in the form of: his words against hers; her values against his; old traditions vs. modern ideas, and different social and cultural upbringing. Patterns of these differences are often invisible when you live with your partner for a few years and try to move on without paying much heed to underlying issues. Such a relationship is often very toxic and drains you physically and mentally. According to Top Relationship Counsellor Dr(Prof) R K Suri you need to change you are thinking and feeling about each other.  These problems can be resolved with the help of  Relationship counselling which focuses on understanding the reasons behind relationship difficulties and attempts to lay an unbiased foundation to build a healthy connection between you and your partner.

Here are a few signs indicating that you need help in your relationship:-

• Inability to express your emotions openly: In comparison to all other social, work, and family relationships, the secret to healthy romantic relationships is to stay emotionally open. Sharing one’s feelings with your partner is a healthy sign. However, when couples do not share their emotional intimacy effectively, it leads to unwanted confusion, resentment, and feeling that they aren’t loved.
• Frequent arguments and fights: Arguments and disagreements are a sign of a healthy relationship. The issue arises when the altercation devolves into a blame game, sarcasm, contempt, hostility, criticism, animosity, prolonged silence (stonewalling), abusive language, and physical aggression. One of the indications that your relationship is deteriorating is if your disputes involve saying cruel things to one another and showing disrespect for even the smallest issues. As a result, maintaining a relationship becomes challenging.
• Avoiding conflicting topics:  A relationship develops and becomes stronger when it can get through difficult times. Challenges in relationships bring couples closer to each other when they work as a team to address conflicting issues. However, when a couple chooses to stay away from them or avoids them completely, they may simply reappear to make things get heated and furious. It may also imply that neither of you cares about the other and does not want to stick together and try to resolve the differences. 
• Unjust suspiciousness and distrust: Suspiciousness arises with the gut feeling that something is not correct. When mistrust starts to interfere with a relationship, the suspicious partner may become quite accusatory against his or her partner. This often causes disagreements, feelings of detachment, and withdrawal from a relationship. Mutual trust allows you to be open and transparent with your partner, express your difficulties, and feel confident in your interactions and relationships.
• Doubting one’s ability to be completely authentic in a relationship: If you don't feel comfortable sharing your experiences, hobbies, thoughts, and feelings with your partner or if you feel judged or condemned when you do and start to hide or suffocate aspects of yourself that your partner finds objectionable, that is a warning sign. Self-doubt can harm your chances of finding true love and cause unnecessarily painful worry, anxiety, and suffering.
• Lack of physical intimacy: The relationship may also become strained if there is not enough physical intimacy and affection. Though these issues of incompatibility are often ignored in the initial part of the relationship, however, as the relationship matures and settles for the long term, lack of sexual chemistry becomes a glaring issue. Sexual intimacy is not everything in a relationship but it remains the most important to be affectionate to each other and establish long-term connection.
• Feeling of disrespect: Do you feel your emotions are put down in your relationship? Do significant decisions in your relationship are taken without your advice? Do feel embarrassed around others while being with your partner? or your work or you are often labeled as "dumb" or "insignificant." This kind of behavior in a relationship is a red sign and shouldn't be accepted. Of course, no relationship is perfect, but feeling mistreated can be bad and make you feel inferior in different ways.
• Infidelity or Cheating: In the event you find that your partner is doing emotional, physical, or financial cheating and is keeping you guessing about their actions and significant changes in behavior you are in a difficult marital relationship.
• Lack of Support: “Healthy relationship is based on mutual respect, and commitment and desire to see partner succeed in all areas of life” says the top relationship coach of India Dr. R K Suri, however when it's a toxic relationship everything falls apart support.
• Negative Economic Behaviour: Sharing details of finances and economics with a partner is a healthy sign, however when one partner becomes secretive about the way finances or major economic decisions are made, it results in doubt and insecurities.   

Some of the above red flags might not be as awful as others for you, but it's always worthwhile to discuss them. Few couples avoid resolving their relationship issues because of their ego. They don’t share or listen to each other and develop hostility. However, by relying on and supporting each other in understanding the nature and reason behind your relationship issues, you can work amicably to resolve relationship conflict and might become closer as a pair. In a situation, when couples struggle with communication or encounter other issues that they may not be able to resolve on their own, marriage counselling becomes necessary.

Marriage counselling is the key to helping you and your partner understand each other and resolve your disagreements and the underlying tension in the relationship. An experienced and certified marriage counselor understands your worries and anxiety, listens to both the partners without bias evaluates the root cause of the problem, and guides them towards a good and healthy bond.

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