How to Build an Emotional Connection?
How to Build an Emotional Connection?
December 10 2022 TalktoAngel 0 comments 436 Views
What is Emotional Intimacy?
When we talk about being intimate in the context of a romantic relationship the first thing that comes to mind is physical actions like cuddling, holding hands or kissing, and even sex. Although physical intimacy is essential in every romantic relationship, emotional intimacy is just as crucial and among the most important factors that set your relationship apart. According to Prof (Dr) R K Suri Relationship Counsellor and Psychologist, “Emotional Intimacy can be described as allowing yourself to be able to connect more intimately with your partner via actions that show feelings, vulnerability, and trust”. An emotional bond that you share with your partner creates a strong feeling of security in your relationship as well as the ability to be fully yourself including all your flaws without feeling as though you're putting at risk the relationship in itself. Without this kind of intimacy, relationships struggle in a variety of ways. You might, for instance, feel angry or resentful and feel oversensitive, worry about the loyalty of your partner to you, or feel feelings of loneliness, sad, depression, or isolation.
Ten Important Strategies & Techniques to increase Emotional Intimacy
The process of building emotional intimacy is a continuous practice that, like other things, it can take years to become proficient at. But there are some steps you can try -- beginning today to enhance your relationship with your loved one.
1. Learn about your Partner
Learn what your partner desires from life and with you. This means being attentive when they speak. Pay attention to the conversation and to their souls which is filled with secrets they would like to share with others.
2. Emotional Availability
Each of you has to be open and honest with the other. If you are hesitant by any means, you're not exposing yourself to the possibility of having a strong bond.
3. Build mutual trust among yourselves.
It will take time for this foundational element of an emotional connection to develop. Building secure feelings with another individual takes time. Allow trust to grow organically.
4. Offer your partner daily affirmations and praises.
No matter how long you've been in a relationship, it's easy to overlook your partner's qualities and strengths and take them for granted. Sometimes it’s hard to communicate the gratitude we have for our relationship with them. Being a regular giver of specific affirmations and praises to your spouse can assist you in keeping your eyes open to why the person is so special to you. It helps them understand that you are aware of them as someone you admire.
5. Show Affection
A couple who is at the beginning of a relationship should not have any trouble being affectionate, however, married couples who have weak connections may have to learn how to be affectionate with one another.
Kiss one another good morning and goodnight. Grab hands, kiss, and ignite the flames of physical affection. Making the effort to study and understand your partner's wants -- and then having the same desires reciprocated could lead to more feelings of emotional intimacy both in and outside of the bedroom.
6. Look the World Through Their Eyes
See the world in the same way as your partner to understand who they are. This involves stepping back at moments to think about the reasons behind why they behave in certain ways. Watch how they react to different situations, and then try to imagine themselves in their position. You can expect them to react exactly the same.
7. Joke and Laugh Together
Many people believe that emotional connection refers to "deep talk" and past traumas. It's not true! The connection can also be built on a lot of laughter and joking. Laughing releases oxytocin, which sub-communicates the fact that you share similar traits. The act of laughing together reveals the idea that you "ride the same wave again".
8. Let Them Speak, Don't Fix Them
Women and men are alike when it comes to "fixing" things and people. This is often not the case when people are open. Instead of coming up with solutions or sharing your experiences simply allow them to speak and express what they feel, without any judgment.
9. Sex and Emotional Intimacy
If you're in a relationship, physical intimacy can be a huge help to make you feel closer to your partner. A study revealed that the degree of satisfaction with your sexual partner was an important factor in the degree that emotional bonding between couples.
10. Do something exciting together
Another method to increase the intimacy between you is to write down the things you enjoy doing together. After the list is completed you should take the time to complete everything you have included. Spending time together, it will help create experiences and create memories that improve emotional bonding. If you're struggling to figure out the best way to spend your time together consider the time when you newly met, and how you would spend your time together.
The relationships we have with each other are an integral aspect of our daily lives. They provide happiness and support however, this doesn't mean they're effortless. If we have issues within our relationships, it may be difficult to figure out what to do. A Relationship Counselor can make a huge difference. Relationship Counselling is a process that you could take part in as a couple or on your own. It offers a safe space in which you can discuss your issues and desires and also consider what you would like to see out of your relationship. A lot of relationships can be improved with Online Counselling, even if there's no obvious issue or problem.
You can consult the best clinical psychologist in India at TalktoAngel India No. 1 Mental Health wellbeing platform for learning how to build good emotional intimacy.
Contributed by: Dr (Prof) R K Suri and Utkarsh Yadav
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