Understanding Cognitive Distortions
An individual indulges in blaming when he holds other people responsible for his/her emotional pain and suffering.
2. "Should & Must" Statements:
"Should I pick up after my partner?"; "I Must not pick up fights with my partner"; "I should not break the rule as, I feel guilty when I violate my own rules".
"Should" statements often lead to anger, guilt and despair, leading oneself to question and doubt each and every action.
3. Emotional Reasoning:
The distortion of emotional reasoning can be true automatically and unconditionally. Whenever a person feels that he/she is "Boring & Stupid", then he/she proclaim or strongly feel so.
Emotions are very strong in people and often overrules- (i) rational thinking; and (ii) reasoning. Thus, emotional reasoning overpowers the ability to think both - rationally and logically. They assume that their unhealthy emotions are reflected in a way, that it must be true. Such reasoning often leads to the fallacy of wrong decision making.
4. Fallacy of Change:
Person expects that others would change themselves to suit him, if he/she pressures or cajoles them tightly. An individual need to change such a thinking because, this ultimately lead to their aspirations, hopes, happiness and success being dependent entirely on other people's dictated actions. This distortion is predominantly formed in relationships.
5. Global Labelling:
An individual generalizes one or two qualities into a 'Negative Global Judgement' about themselves or others, leading to an extreme form of "Overgeneralization". Over here an error in reference to a specific situation is overgeneralized by a person and he/she makes unhealthy universal labelling about themselves or others.
6. Always Being Right:
In this distortion, an individual often puts other people on trial to prove that his/her opinions/acts/words about a given situation/person/thing are absolutely correct. Such individual always considers them as being "Always Right".
7. Heaven Reward Fallacy:
It is a false belief and myth that, individuals make sacrifices and self-denial will eventually pay off; as if the universe is keeping score. A person who sacrifices and works hard to achieve a goal, but doesn’t get his/her share of adequate compensation - pay off or reward, usually feel - bitter, resentment and anger when such reward is not thrust upon him/her.
An individual makes the other person question their own thinking, perception and reality testing and thereby evoke in them - low self-esteem, doubting their ideas and affect- which may facilitate the development of cognitive confusion.
In our next article " 8 Common Cognitive Behaviour" , you may further know and understand more about Cognitive Disorders.
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